Signs of a Cheating Spouse

Posted on 03. Mar, 2010 by Spy Geeks in Articles

The following is a guide to help you determine if your mate is cheating on you.  After reading this list you may find there are some areas of concern.  Do not confront the cheater.  This will only cause them to clean up their act and make if more difficult for you to catch them.  You may not have enough proof to make your case.  We urge you to seek professional help.

1) At the beginning of an affair the mate that is cheating is more attentive to their spouse. This is due to guilt that the cheater may be feeling at the time.

2) Cheating Spouses may lose attention in the activities on the home. They don’t show interest in the livelihood of you or the children that live in the home. Nor do they have any desires to do any fix-ups to the home (lawn care, house repairs, etc.)

3) Intuition (gut feeling) that something is not right, usually is a sign you may have a cheater on your hands. “When in doubt check them out.” If a woman has lived with a man for a year or more they can usually tell by the look on his face if he is lying or not.

4) Cheaters may have a change in sex life (more sex, less sex) as well as unexplained sexual requests.

5) The cheater has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home, especially the mate: “If he or she didn’t act the way they do, well then maybe I wouldn’t be doing the things I do.”

6) Another sign is finances. “If someone wants to play they need to pay.” Therefore, keeping an eye on their money (check stubs, bank statements, credit card or cell phone bills, etc.) would tell you whether they’re spending more money than usual. Your mate having a P.O. Box instead of getting mail at home is not a good sign. They might be trying to hide credit card or cell phone statements.

7) Grooming habits will change. Cheaters will be more attentive to their appearance; the way they dress, frequent showers, physical fitness, grooming of their hair, switching of colognes.

8 ) Physical signs to look for to determine whether or not someone is having an affair is lipstick on the collar, odors of perfume on a shirt or blouse, checking underwear for secretion stains. You can also check their wallets or glove compartments to see if there are any receipts, pieces of paper with phone numbers or addresses, or hidden cell phone or condoms.

9) You may want to monitor your spouse for two weeks. During this time keep track of the mileage on their vehicle. Write down the miles before they leave for work and check the odometer again when they come home. Then drive to their work and see how many miles it is round trip and do the math. Note the time they leave for work and the time they come home. Keep a calendar and write down everything to establish a pattern. If your mate claims to be working late; check paychecks stubs to verify the overtime.

10) Be tuned in to home phone calls when your mate has a tendency to whisper, gives a quick answer and immediately hangs up, or when you answer the telephone and get an abrupt hang up. Also check the history on computers to see if the list is always empty after they use it. This means they have something to hide.

11) Many cheaters use pre-paid cell phones to communicate with their lovers. You should always have detailed billing for all cell phones to determine whether a certain number has been frequently called. A good area to start is the first number called when your mate leaves for work and the same number called again right before they return home.

12) Female cheaters are more discreet in the selection of a lover. This is most likely because of their concern of sexually transmitted diseases (STD’s). Most females are looking for a longer lasting relationship rather than a “one night stand”. In past years men were the aggressors. In society today, with the increase of women in the workforce, they have become equally aggressive. Women tend to have more of a “glow” about them when cheating.

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Tags: Affairs, Cheating, Extramarital, Female Infidelity, Male Infidelity